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Handshake vs Dex

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Dex is a cloud personal CRM built around keep-in-touch reminders – a browser extension, mobile apps, LinkedIn sync, and AI pre-meeting briefs, from $12/month (July 2026). Handshake is a free, local-first desktop app that maps your network as plain markdown files you own.

Dex is probably the most complete keep-in-touch machine in the category: set a cadence per person (“every two months”), and it nags you, drafts context from your history, and syncs LinkedIn connections through its extension. Free plan; Premium at $12/month, Professional at $20/month with email integrations and API access.

Handshake doesn't nag. Instead, the board itself shows neglect – cards can fade as ties go stale, so you see the drift instead of being pinged about it. It's a calmer contract: the map informs you; you decide who to reach out to.

At a glance

DexHandshake
PriceFree plan; Premium $12/mo, Professional $20/mo (July 2026)Free, open source (MIT)
Where your data livesTheir cloudPlain markdown files on your device
PlatformsWeb, iOS, Android, browser extensionmacOS, Windows & Linux desktop
Works offlineNoFully offline – no account
Data formatProprietary; CSV exportAlready plain text; nothing to export
Seeing your networkLists, timelines, remindersA spatial board of your whole network
Auto-sync / enrichmentLinkedIn sync, calendar, email (paid); AI briefsNone – you decide who's on the map
Open sourceNoYes (MIT)

Competitor details checked July 2026 – check their site for current pricing.

Where Dex wins

Keep-in-touch cadences

Per-person reminder schedules with notifications. If you want a system that actively pushes you to reach out, Dex is built for exactly that and Handshake isn't.

LinkedIn sync

The browser extension pulls your connections in – no retyping. Handshake has no integrations by design.

Phone-first workflows

Real mobile apps for capturing a note right after coffee. Handshake is desktop-only during the beta.

Where Handshake wins

No subscription, ever

Dex's useful tier costs $144–240/year. Handshake is MIT-licensed and free – the entire feature set, no limits.

Your data is a folder

Markdown files you can read in any editor or open as an Obsidian vault, versus a cloud database with CSV export.

The board

Dex tells you who to contact; Handshake shows you the whole shape – ties by warmth, introduction chains, backlinks between notes drawn as lines.

Offline and private

No account, no server, nothing to breach. A personal CRM is a map of your relationships – arguably the last thing that belongs in someone else's cloud.

The honest verdict

Choose Dex if…

  • Automated keep-in-touch reminders are the main thing you want
  • You need LinkedIn sync and mobile capture
  • You'll happily pay ~$12/month for less manual work

Choose Handshake if…

  • You want free, open source, and no account
  • You think in maps, not task lists
  • Your relationship notes should live in files you control
  • You'd rather decide who's on the map than have an algorithm decide for you

Questions

Is Dex free?
Dex has a free plan; the paid tiers are Premium at $12/month and Professional at $20/month (July 2026). Handshake is entirely free and open source.
Does Handshake have keep-in-touch reminders like Dex?
No automated reminders. Instead, the board can fade cards as ties go stale, so neglected relationships become visible at a glance – you act on what you see rather than what pings you.
Can I move from Dex to Handshake?
Dex exports CSV; Handshake's vault is plain markdown with a simple frontmatter format, so contacts can be migrated by hand or with a small script. There's no automated importer yet.

Try the local-first way

Handshake is free, open source, and takes about two minutes to meet your network. If it's not for you, your notes are plain markdown – nothing lost.